My boyfriend who is 30, I am 25, have been dating for 15 months. He constantly is looking at other girls on the Internet, on fb and Instagram. He friend requests strippers, and stalks a few certain girls on Instagram. I wouldn't care as much if these women were famous or something like that, but these are average girls, and it hurts me. We can't even go out in public without him breaking his neck to look at other girls... walking down the street, shopping for groceries or out to dinner. He doesn't kiss me and we hardly have sex, once a month... so it makes me feel worse. If our sex life was great and he kissed me and gave me attention, I wouldn't care as much... but I feel like the energy he spends on these girls he could spend on me. I have told him countless times how this bothers me... he has a lock on his phone and takes it with him everywhere. He is on his phone constantly, looking through profiles and Instagram accounts. He will stare at a girls pictures for a good five minutes. He also had a fake account on fb with dozens of trashy looking girls half naked as friends. He is not cheating, physically, he works from home and I'm always here.. I feel like he takes me completely for granted. I get hit on quite a lot and asked out and I wonder why he doesn't see me the same way these other guys do.. Its much deeper then i can really write out, but it's been going on pretty much since the start of our relationship. He never compliments me, doesn't like my photos on fb, doesn't follow me on Instagram or snapchat, but has the time to comment, like, and follow strangers on social media. Should I break up with him and move back home? More like will this shock him into being a better boyfriend, because i can't go on like this, feeling like second fiddle to these girls and feeling inadequate. Advice?
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This situation totally sucks for you. I hear your annoyance and frustration.
You'll probably hear this a lot but you deserve better.
Something obviously attracted you to this guy in the first place. Is that still in play? If so, How does that thing stack up against all that you've shared here... and the stuff you haven't? Whichever way the scales tip will be you're answer.
But from what I've just read my money would go on you moving back home and finding someone who's intersted in giving you some attention. Some wanting to put the time and energy into making you feel like the only woman in his world.
Goodnight and good good luck0