My ex and I have been on and off for the past year and a half. Almost 2 months ago we started talking again and at first everything seemed to be going good. Unfortunately my then boyfriend said that I was being too clingy and once I distanced myself from him and stopped being affectionate as much as I use to be that is when all of our problems started. We fight over the most petty things. Our biggest issue is that even though we fight, I always bring up problems that should have been resolved back up or other issues that I did not talk about during our fight. I am not sure why I keep doing this, but I think it has a lot to do with the way that he argues with me. When he fight, the way he talks to me during it makes me feel that what I have to say/ what is bothering me is insignificant and meaningless which is why when he asks if there is anything else, I say no and wait to bring it up another time. With the being too clingy, I said it is either I am too clingy or not clingy at all, for me there is no middle ground to which he calls an extreme. He decided that in order for us to fix our problems, that we need to be broken up. In all honesty I think that it is stupid and pointless to be broken up in order to fix our issues and that either we're together or we are not and if we are not then there is no reason for us to keep contact. He use to be like this before when we were together and now all of a sudden when I am giving him this he thinks I am being ridiculous. What can I do to solve this relationship if it can even be saved?
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What is keeping you two together? Are you two actually happy in the relationship despite all the fighting? All I'm sensing is a lot of fighting and unhappiness which doesn't seem like a ideal healthy relationship to me. He doesn't seem considerate towards you and the fact that he rather wants to break up then actually work through the problems tells me that he's not even willing to make a effort. I really believe from what you write that this relationship isn't good and meant to be.
With that said, if you truly do want to try to make it work then it will require communication and lots of it. Both of you need to talk face to face about your problems and decide if this will work or not. You can't be broken up but still try to fix a relationship. If you want to fix things you need to work on it together as a unit.0