He made it very clear he still cared about me, was still just as attracted to me as he ever was, and was just as likely to ask me on a date as he was the first time we met. He said it was really important to him that we stay friends and keep talking--he didn't wanna lose that. So far it's been great--we've talked every day and it feels like not much has changed.
Ultimately his reasons for breaking up with me was that he wants to sort himself out. He just finished his first term of college and joined a fraternity, and he isn't sure he knows himself well enough to be in a relationship without worrying about not doing his best to make me happy and provide for me. He worries that his focus will need to be on him too much and so he needs the space to do that. He said that he didn't want the constant validation of someone liking him for who he was to be a crutch while figuring himself out. I agreed that it was fine, and asked about casually dating--starting anew, with an adult perspective. Not being entirely exclusive, so that if one of us finds someone who is absolutely the best thing yet, we can break it off and go try that out. He seemed a little apprehensive at first, but said he'd seriously think on it and by the end of the conversation he said that he'd definitely love to try it when he comes home from college in April, so long as he's not attached, which he doesn't think he will be. I asked if he wanted to go to a new year's party and he said he definitely would if he didn't already have plans with his dad. I don't believe this to be an excuse.
He seems completely not ready for a relationship--especially a serious one. I understand that, and while it does make me a little nervous to know he's probably going to date around while he's at co
However, I need to make it clear that we can't just be friends--we both understand that it's too difficult. We have too much investment in our feelings for each other. I asked him if he'd consider a date with me