I spent $90 on gifts for him. I'm not trying to be ungrateful but he gave me his old computer keyboard, a necklace he got for free and spent 4 dollars on a box of cookies. I was really irritated because I droped 100 hints on things I wanted but he ignored them. I know He has a lot money (that's not why I'm dating. I really love him. We have been together for 10 months ) I don't know , am I just being stupid about this?
Most Helpful Guy
You are a materialistic person, which is why you are upset. If you spent $200, and expect a $200 gift in return, what's the point? Just buy your own shit for the holidays.
Society has created people like you who think the strength of a relationship at Christmas is based on the amount of money you spend on each other. I've only exchanged a store-bought gift with my wife during our 1st year of dating. Now, we spend $0 on purchased items and we make each other gifts instead.
Whether she makes me cookies, caramel popcorn, or a knitted sweater for my childhood teddy bear, it means a lot more than a computer keyboard, a necklace or a jacket.
You should also consider whether his cultural/family values actually values such presents. In his family, do people often buy gifts for each other and spend lots of money? Or do they simply spend Christmas together, eating, laughing and sharing stories?
I think your pettiness, materialistic nature will strain any relationship you have. There are far too many couples who break up due to money issues. Whether it's because they don't have enough money, or that he isn't spending enough on you.1
Most Helpful Girl
Christmas, like oral, is more about giving than getting.1