I basically poured my heart out to my ex boyfriend of 3 months (with the help of some alcohol) I told him I still cared for him and missed him and loved him. I don't regret it because I've been wanting to say it to him for so long. He replied wishing me a happy Christmas and basically told me he always thinks of our good times but he doesn't know if it could work when it didn't before. I replied back saying maybe we just needed some time apart and maybe we could work out because we both were going through tough times and it really influenced our relationship. He then replied this morning saying he doesn't know, that there's too many maybes and nights for him, what should I do? How should I reply? I really want him back and love him so much we had amazing relationship but we both had a lot of personal stuff going on within the last year of our relationship and it took a toll on us. Any advice would be amazing Thank you in advance
Most Helpful Guy
It takes two people to have a relationship. It sounds like he doesn't want to be. Sometimes if you let things settle more you'll both find that you do love each other. It's an overused trope, but the "if you love something, let it go" story does work sometimes.
If it's meant to be, it'll be. You can't force it. You can't make him love you.0
Most Helpful Girl
I really think you just have to let go. Why would you ever want to be with someone who hesitates and isn't sure about what they want? You deserve to be with someone who has no hesitations whatsoever and would never question being with you. He clearly doesn't want you enough to actually want to be in a relationship with you. Exes should stay exes and it almost never works out for anyone who tries to get back with an ex. All those problems you had before won't magically disappear when you've taken some time off from each other. Soon enough they will reappear and you'll be back at square one, and breaking up yet again being a topic of discussion. Let this guy go and move on. Learning how to move on is painful but also healthy, it makes you stronger and will help you in the future in similar situations. You need to be able to let go of people and things, otherwise you'll forever be stuck in the past and you will only start feeling shittier and shittier.0
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