How long before bringing a date around your kids?

How long should I wait before bringing a boyfriend around my kids? I'm recently divorced and haven't brought anyone home yet because I want to be very careful about the whole situation. I don't want to confuse or damage them in any way. They are 2 and 4. They obviously wouldn't understand a boyfriend vs. a friend, but still. I'm not at all talking overnight, just coming over. Things are getting serious with the new guy, he has said he really likes kids, and I feel it is unfair (to him) that I always go to his place and he never comes here. But my kids are my priority!


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Seems safe enough if he already verbalized he likes kids. Just remind him he doesn't need to go crazy with gifts ^w^

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Most Helpful Girl

  • There's a huge difference between "liking "kids and being part of their life.

    Although the kids should be your priority, it's still important for you to have a life outside of family life too, but I'd keep you family life separate from you social life until you are sure the relationship is going to be long-. term. It's hard to put a time limit on it, but I'd introduce them to him no less than 6 months.

    Kids as young as yours will like anyone who "mummy" likes they adapt quickly too. So introduce them gradually whe you know this guy has intentions of sticking around.

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    • Thanks for the MHO

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What Guys Said 4

  • Kids adapt faster than most people give them credit for. You should be good to go on that given their ages.

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  • risk risk risk

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    • That's why I'm asking. ..

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    • So no other human being can ever come around my kids?

    • not saying he's a bad guy but thats me

  • i dated a girl a year and never had an intention on meeting her kid.

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    • Never would seriously date a women with kids

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    • I agree. However the men that would want to meet your children are 20x more likely to be child molesters.

    • He didn't ask to at all. But it's a package deal.

  • Go for it as soon as you think your ready

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What Girls Said 3

  • I would wait at least 6 months but more like a year.

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  • My mum has been weary of everyone since the beginning of time. I don't think she dated anyone after my dad left (I was 7) until I was about 17. Even then she didn't bring him around the house.

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  • I would say when you think it's right and when you're pretty sure the guy is going to be with you for a long while.

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