Recently my husband discovered that I am having an affair and asked to choose between him and my lover.
Here is the catch: I don't love my husband. He's a good guy but the love is gone and I am not happy, which is the reason I am having an affair.
I love my lover but I'm being realistic when I think that we might not have a long future together.
He plans to return to his native country in two years and I think his family would prefer for him to marry someone from his native country.
what should I do?
If I leave my husband I know I will be at least happy for the next two years and if I stay nothing will change. I will not be happy.
Most Helpful Guy
You are faced with a very tough decision. However I don't understand you said you want to leave your husband for your lover, but then you say you may not have a long future together, like you may with him only for 2 years so what is the point of being with your lover which will not last long?
Yes, I understand and you're right you shouldn't be in a relationship where there is no love and at the same time it's wrong to have an affair and that would be betraying him so if you don't love your husband then take a divorce and go after the one you love.
However have you spoken to your lover? I mean you are sure that your lover also wants to be with you right? you are sure he loves you right?
If it is so then you're right you can at least be with the one you love and in that way you will be happy at least but then as you said it will eventually end after 2 years so that's something you need to be prepared for. Hence it will be a short term love only, if you are okay with then go for it.
However I want to ask you, what are you going to do after 2 years, say you divorce your husband now go with the one you love, and that will last for 2 years and after that say you and your lover break up and good terms and he heads back to his country and gets married to someone from his native country then what will do? what have you thought about your future?
Are you never going to get married after that? will you only be single? have you thought about your long term happiness? if not I suggest you think about that.
Right now you can do 2 things here:
1. You can divorce your husband and go with the one you love and be happy for 2 years but as you said you may not have a future with him.
2. Divorce your husband and just stay single, don't go for the a love that has no future or may not have a future rather, there is uncertainity involved in this. Hence wait for your true love, or search in that direction, wait for your love that you will have a long future with, someone you will love and spend your rest of your life with him.
Hence in any situation I would suggest you divorce your husband, there is no point in staying in this marriage that is without love and you are not happy as well.0
Most Helpful Girl
You cheated on your husband and all you care about is who is going to make you happy?
You are trifling and a ho and you should be happy that your husband is giving you a choice
I hope you don't get a dime of his money
I think you should divorce your husband because he deserves better
Your liver knows you just a bitchy ho so of course he does not plan on getting serious with you lmao
Why are you surprised he is going back to his country?
You thought he was going to get into a relationship with you?
Never get married again, you obviously don't know the meaning of it10
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