A few days ago I broke up with my boyfriend and it was by far the hardest thing I've ever done. I still love him like crazy and I don't even know how to cope with the whole situation. We've talked about marriage and having kids and I truly believed that he was going to be the one for me. But throughout our relationship, he constantly partied as if he was in college (he's 30) and it always drove me crazy. I didn't want my future husband/father of my children out behaving like that. I had high expectations on how the relationship should have been but reality always fell short. Plus, I really did not feel like I was being treated in a way that I deserved, and by the end of our relationship I felt so emotionally broken and I really just lost myself while trying to make him happy. I also did not want to force him to change into a man that he didn't want to be even though I thought if he changed certain aspects of his life, it would just lead to better future for him but he did not see it that way I guess. I know we both loved each other so much, but I felt that if we stayed together we would fight nonstop and ultimately just wouldn't be happy. But now i feel so lost, i feel regret, and I don't even think it's possible for me to love another man like him ever again. He is still everything to me and I don't know if I did the right thing or not. Any advice or tips?
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I think you made the right choice... if he is in 30's and partying every weekend is the only thing he has to live for, then you are better off without him.
Best thing take advantage of the time to find out who you are and what you want out of life. Don't go out with a bunch of guys just because you can.
Some people can't stand to be alone... don't be one of those people, work through it and do what you always wanted to do. Become the person you always wanted to be without anyone. Take advantage of the time apart... he may come back to you, but be sure it is the best thing for you!0