I was with my ex for 6 years and we have a five year old daughter .She recently decided to move out and get her own place "take time off" as she called it, I know the root of the problem is me and my hang ups with marriage. She made it clear what she wanted over the years but I never committed, I always felt like I was there, faithful and a good father and that was good enough. Since she left its been hard but things still seemed uncertain about were we stood, but recently I found out she's seeing someone and all of a sudden I'm confronted with these overwhelming feeling of pain and heartache, and I aloud these feeling to get the better of me and said a lot of things I regret in fact I've made all of the common break up mistakes...so that leads me to my question. how do I approach things from here I want her back but I don't want to force it and ruin my chances and it doesn't seem right to ignore her, in fact that's impossible we still have my daughter to think about.i guess at this point I'm lost and any advice would be appreciated. THANKS
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Okay, your ex has taken a bold step . . . A step in the right direction for the both of you. Yes, the right direction. Being a couple for 6 years with just being there, faithful, and a good father isn't good enough in her eyes. Now, this is your time to weed through the overwhelming feelings of pain and heartache. It will take time, but this is your time to reflect on what was good, bad, and ugly. This won't happen overnight. It could take 3 months, 6 months, a year, or a few years, but it's worth it! Find out what you like. Find out what makes it hard for you to commit in relationships and other things. Also, get involved in things that interest you. This will ease a little of the pain, anger, and resentment. Working out is a great tool.
If she's seeing someone else, but you still have contact, then this is good. You need to be patient and not overstep her boundries and at the same time work on you and your happiness. She might just notice over time that good changes have taken place, and her place is with you. Again, this will NOT be an overnight process.0