We dated for three years and when I started mentioning moving forward she said she is not ready for that and just a coupe weeks ago said she doesn't what to be In a relationship with me or anyone else for that matter until she can find herself and what she truly wants. Thing is it truly was the best three years of my life and every moment I'm away from her she's the only woman I think about. While I've told her, after trying not to loose the relationship, that I love her which in turn I respect her wishes and only what her happy. I have also told her that I have also told her she is my one true love the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with and will support her as she finds herself while trying not to overstep where she sees our relationship. She has made some new friends and hangs out with them and seems herself with them and people on social media but still kinda awkward around me. We still talk several times daily and she's even come over to my place at least once a week to hang out even after stating she doesn't wanna be in a relationship with anyone. Today she came over we were discussing us and things in general and she all the sudden says I'm gonna regret this and basically jumps on me and starts kissing me which lead to us making love. My question I guess is what do y'all think about my giving her a promise ring and upon giving it to her reiterate that she is the woman I wanna spend my life with and I'm still here for her? Or am I just being naive and gullible and being used because she knows how I feel and is just still trying to get outta me what she can because I've always treated her great and spoiled her.
Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't make moves like that till she actually confesses to wanting to officially be with you again. I'm sure she knows you want and like her so it's on her to win you over as she ended the relationship...0
Most Helpful Guy
Absolute not. Why, you may ask? Giving her promise ring, in itself, is a symbolic gesture of commitment to her and therefor a gesture that you will wait for her for indefinite amount of time, even as she is currently not committed to you.
Does that truly give her sense of independence? How does that aid in her finding herself? To answer both questions: It doesn't.1