my ex and I broke up mid december and I still find myself thinking about her before bed and when I wake up. I miss her company a lot, our relationship got very argumental(if that's a word) a lot towards the end of it a lot of it had to do with her not trusting me when I went out with my single friends, although she was convinced I would never cheat on her she still had some issues from when I used to talk to my girl friends in the first month of our relationship and past girls that I hooked up with - nothing was inappropriate but she just didn't approve so I stopped...anywas in jan some guy at her work asked her to go out with him to dinner, she agreed and they went on I think 2 dates or so...she later told me he asked her out but she refused because number one she wasn't over me and number two she just saw him as a friend and someone tot alk to about what hapened with us...now its February and 9 days ago she called me two times and of course I didn't pick up...she texted me PLEASE HELP ME on the phone so I called immediate to see if she was safe or needed someone there..she didn't pick up but said "im fine I got help" about 15 min later..the next day I went to her work (where I work out) and up to her desk to see if she was alrigth and what actually happened..before I could say a thing I got "get away from my desk, leave me alone, stop coming to see me every friday" - now the friday before that I had come to see her because she called and needed something from me...which is why I didn't get the stop seeing me every friday..anyways I walked away with a whater, what the hell just happened look on my face and as I was leaving I got a 'go f yourself'..later that day I texted her and was like yo you can't get this twisted I was respecting you and leaving you alone, I just got worried and wanted to know what exactly happened' she told me 'i can't get over you if you don't leave me alone and I'm seeing somone else right now and it wouldn't be fair to him, he makes me happy and I don't want to hurt him' - this was a complete shock because we both agreedd not to talk about new people...i was just confused I mean 2 months after a 1y8mo relationship and she's on to someone else? I confirmed wshe was seeing someone by looking in her car to see if the stuffed cookie monster I gave her was still there..it was along with a stuffed teddy bear on the passenger seat - conclusion she went on a date with him on vday I guess? anyways is this guy a rebound? what can I do to pull her back? I haven't contacted her at all...she texted me mid week to tell me to look at her old house which was demolished and she was upset because she can't look back and see her childhood memories..i didn't say anything..im staying NC..im still head over heals for her and I miss her terribly..i go out and have fun and am slowly moving on, but I will never feel the same for anyone again..any ideas on how I can bring her back to me? is there even a chance with this new guy around
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ok, ok so your freakin out here. First of all, stop it. Stop it all. Girls say things like "I'll never get over" you, all the time, and don't know what they're talking about.
This is what you do. Do not contact her. Answer texts with a delay, but answer them MATURELY. Now, do you want her to salivate? Do a new routine in the gym, beef it up baby. Get yourself a tan going. I know sounds stupid, but I am a girl, I know.
Develop a new interest- sport, etc. preferably something with a lot of ladies around. Be independent, strong and leave her alone to consider what she is missing. Oh, she'll come around. :)0