I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. We had an argument, he asked me to leave his apartment. he has done this many times before, told me I needed to leave in the middle of the night (I live almost 2 hours away) he has issues with alc & he is startin depression, & bi polar meds.
I left w/o a fuss & figured I'd hear from him on mon, like I usually do... this time I didn't. I found out he had been talkin to other girls sun night/mon& got a tinder. I called him up, he denied it.
I called 2x after that, then he text, "stop. we're done. we've been done. don't contact me anymore. I'm not datin you" He's also said this before & then gotten mad that I haven't contacted him. he's blocked my messages before but it lasts less than 2 days.
Sun mornin he loved me & didn't want me to go back home. I asked him if he was lyin when he said that. He said "I'll always love you bc Im a nice person, but you're a horrible girlfriend & I'm over u & your love"
He's said I was a horrible girlfriend a lot, but I do so much to help him, he lost his license & i drove him around for months, an our each way so he could work, (I would sit at the library or coffee shops until they closed, then wait in my car) I took him to interviews so he could start is career job once his degree was finished, hours away from where I live so I would sit in the car & wait. I'd take him to the dr, to run errands, to court. Thousands of miles.
I'd also be there emotionally, he'd call me crying @ 2,3,4am & even tho I was on call I'd go be there for him. I'd wake up to 16 missed calls at 2a, bc he thought I was cheating (I never have, but he's cheated a lot) He'd even harrass my family in the middle of the night
I thought he'd reach out again, like he always has before. V Day is soon & the thought of him on a date w/ another girl, gettin her flowers is crushing me. Last night I found out he changed his # & he didn't tell me. I'm devastated. I don't know how to a
Most Helpful Guy
if people can grieve over a death and move on from it then moving on from a relationship is easier. you will grieve for a month but just know its all in the mind. you will have to be active and talk to friends to move on. you will meet someone else like everyone else0
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly you should be happy, look back and read what he does to you, attempts to let you go out alone at 2 am to find somewhere else, he basically uses you for convenience says horrible stuff to you and calls you a bad girlfriend. Why would you want to still be with someone who emotionally cheats on you too? Whose to say he hasn't even went on those dates with them. Valentines day is just a day, it shouldn't be treated like any other day, he changed his number good. You can cut him out of your life and move on.2