Most Helpful Guy
I do believe in the notion of people being happy with themselves, before they can be happy with others.
But in your case, it looks a bit dicey. he probably just wanted an excuse to break up with you.
Most Helpful Girl
im kinda in the same situation. my boyfriend of a year just told me that he is stressed and needs time to find himself, but he also wants me to find my independence as he worries that i am too dependent on him. at the end of it all, i know he really loves me and cares for me, he is just doing what he thinks is right. if you trust him, you should trust his word. he is saying what he is saying because he cares about you. but also keep in mind it could have been an excuse to break up with you