Ok so I'm keeping this short. I had a guy I became close with. Best friends actually. Knew everything about each other and got really close fast-- like we could read each other minds. He started catching feelings for me 3 months into our friendship but he had a girlfriend of 2 years.
He wanted to pursue me but I told him he had to be single. Now this guy did the most for me. Always trying to see me, cook for me, proving his worth to me. Even told me I inspired him in ways he's never been inspired.
So then 2 weeks ago he tells me he's dumped this girl. A week later I found out he had her on "a break" and they were technically still together. He's used to manipulating this girl to get what he wants cause she don't do shit. Me on the other hand is very secure in my position and I defend myself. Me and his girl are total opposites. She gets played and sticks around, I avoid getting played and assert my actions when I feel threatened.
So last Monday he admits to his girlfriend for cheating on her with me. Also tells her how for months he had been plotting on me, even met my parents. (I told him he had to tell her everything if he ever wanted to forgive himself)
This Monday (yes, 4 days ago) I cut him off. Out of anger of course cause I wasn't sure what he was doing and I didn't wanna be played again and he's acting like someone I don't recognize. So it was fear. I know I did the right thing but I really killed his ego. I told him:
"I don't like you, I don't respect you. Friends don't treat each other like this. Dont talk to me. Don't text me. Don't show up at my door wanting to fix our relationship after realizing how much you miss me. You're so used to having your way with (gf) that you forgot me and her are not the same *insert more insults to his personality*"
You get it. I was vicious, direct and harsh. Cause I know he is better than this. And I know their relationship is unhealthy.
I need male opinions! Hope he turns around soon!