Dont get me wrong, i really love this girl, she is amazing in every sense of the world, but i am going to study and i probably won't see her in at least two years because of the lack of money. Personally i think i am being also selfish, because i cannot satisfy the physical needs for her that i know do bother her. She has mentioned before that she understands the distance might play a difficulty in our relationship and if down the line we find somebody else that she would understand.
However regardless of what she said, i know it would be very hard for her, because i know she really loves me.
Also like i mentioned before i don't want to stop talking to her or for her to be mad at me, because she is a lot of fun and has helped me to grow so much as a person and helped in very diffciult times that she means the world to me.
How do i brake it up to her without braking her heart?
Most Helpful Girl
My ex did this to me a year ago and I'm still kind of heart broken. No matter what you do or how nicely you put it, if she really loves you you're gonna break her heart into pieces. And staying friends will only cause you two to keep tabs on each other and kind of still feel obligated and fateful to each other (having the hope, you know), which will prevent her from falling in love with someone else. Even though my ex had pretty "legit" reasons (the distance, the studying, lack of money, etc.), I still ended up resenting him and thinking of him as a weak man. I agree with AnnVdB, if you really loved her you wouldn't do this. I know I wouldn't. I thought about it but I just couldn't and I didn't wanted to. He wanted us to stay friends and we did for awhile, but it only caused more pain and more resentment towards him. All I could think about was "why don't you man up and deal with this situation!". I was ready to move away and quit my job and start all over for him, but he didn't see it as a good idea, which made me question his love for me... I think if you break up with her, she's gonna have doubts as well, no matter what you say or do after that. But if you already decided to do it, don't stay friends. Don't even keep in touch. You have to life through consequences by dumping her, and one of it is not seeing her ever again. Are you sure you want to do that? It's up to you, but be careful though, regret hurts like a bitch.0
Most Helpful Guy
Can't be done. My only useful advice is be very clear that your decision is final.0