Hi! I recently broke up with my now ex boyfriend because we were in a long-distance relationship and I started getting overwhelmed by the fact that we barely saw each other. I told him about it and after a few attempts to calm my fears he just became distant (which makes sense, I guess). The more distant he became, the more I expressed my doubts about the relationship in a vicious circle until I couldn't take it anymore and broke up with him. When I broke up I told him that I loved him and I was very sorry about everything. He was very cold. He never contacted me again and the only time I contacted him, he said it was better this way and that he wanted to move on... it's been three months and I still haven't heard from him, but I think about him every single day and I really regret what happened, especially because in 2 months I am moving back to where he lives. I was very impulsive in my decision and I don't know if I should reach out to him and try to talk... but the fact that he was so cold makes me think that maybe he just really wants to move on and it's selfish not to let him. On the other hand, if he still loves me, I'd do anything to make him happy and work on my issues. And knowing that I'll be back very soon, my issues will not last long either. What do you think?
Does not talking after the break up mean he doesn't love me anymore?
What Guys Said 2
The relevant thing here is that he wants to move on. That's pretty much all there is to it. You could try letting him know that you're moving back, but I wouldn't hold my breath.1
What Girls Said 1
It's like everything works AS PER YOU in the relationship. When distance started taking a toll over you, you broke up. Now, it would be convenient for you to resume your relationship, so you want him back in your life. I am sorry, but it's harsh, and I feel sad for your ex boyfriend. When two people are in relationship, you have to think about other's feelings as well and gotta stop focusing JUST on your needs. He obviously wanted to make it work, but your issues pushed him away. You may try to reach out again and explain how you are coming back physically near to him, but I am not sure how he may react. Don't have high expectations. He needed time to move on, and that's why he has not contacted you again.1
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