How long does it take to forget our first love?
What Guys Said 1
Try and let the past be the past, don't focus your energy on trying to hate him or trying to forget him or anything at all, just look forward to the future (and the present) and don't turn around and look backwards.
Relationships, especially at your age, are all about learning. Yes, of course there are emotions involved, but you're learning about relationships and loves, just like he is. There are bound to be mistakes made, but this is all how you both learn, and hopefully use these experiences (the good and the bad) to be better at the whole relationship/love game in the future!
You probably won't ever forget him, though it won't be too long before you have enough distance that the thought of him/your relationship together won't stir up strong emotions any more.
Figure out what you can learn from the relationship and keep these things in mind, but don't let his mistakes be representative of all guys... everyone is different.
In time, try and remember the good times you had more than any bad things that happened. The bad memories won't do you any good (aside from learning and not making the same mistakes again), and the good memories will be something you can look back at 10, 20, 30 years from now and you can laugh about your awkward first relationship.
It's all normal and part of growing up, just keep your head up and look FORWARD, not backwards.
Also, I'm a big believer in separation after a breakup. While you might be able to remain friends, it's in your best interest to completely avoid contact with each other for at least a few months after the break up, just to allow time for wounds to heal and to allow your mind to move on... If you break up and then see / talk to the guy every day or every week right after, it will be like picking at a scab... the wounds won't heal as fast.
Be completely apart, no contact (or as little as possible, if you go to the same school), and then in 6 months you might be in a better place if you want to resume a friendly relationship.
What Girls Said 2
hey, I'm going through something very similar, but for me its been nine months. what you need to do is cut off all contact. my ex cheated on me too. i didn't know until a month after. he's arrogant, rude, and mean but i still love him. the reason i haven't been able to move on is because i have been seeing him since the break up, and overtime we hang out it is as if were still dating. i thought this would remind him what it was like to be together and he would want me back, but it resulted that he ended up blocking me on all social media, telling me to move on, get over him, and get out of his life. he pretty much made me feel like a psycho who couldn't move on. i learned my lesson- if a man wants you, nothing can make him leave. if he doesn't, nothing can make him stay. you can't make someone appreciate and value you. the best you can do is walk away
You will move on in time , I been hurt 3 times I'm actually going threw it now. But the man I was seeing gave me an std and let me walk around with it knowing I had it and I still care and that's far worse than what your boyfriend did. No matter what someone has done sometimes we just can't help but to still care. It will go in time tho0
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