I know it sounds dumb but he's the only guy I've ever been with. We've been together almost 6 years and around 3 years we got into a huge fight. He said maybe we need some time apart so we took a "break". I was pretty upset because I didn't have anywhere to stay since I was living with him. But I had gone back to get some things and he wasn't there so I got my stuff. As I was leaving he came pulling in with my bff in her car. I didn't think anything of it at first because I knew he had mentioned working on her car. When I saw her the next day she came to me crying saying that he pulled her on top of him trying ot kiss her and stuff. I confronted him about this and he denied it saying its pretty f-ed up that I would believe her since I've known him longer. Both of them had deleted their texts. So I was like whatever I have no way to prove either side. I'll let it slide. I had been living in my car. Next day I logged into his FB because he was just ignoring me completely. I ended up finding IMs between him and another girl saying how he had been in love with her ever since he met her. And I went by his house the next day while he was asleep I went through his phone and found nudes between the 2 of them. I went crazy on her, mostly because even with me around she'd flirt with him every chance she got. If this weren't enogh I still begged and begged for him to take me back out of desperation so I'd have somewhere to stay. He finally agreed to "let" me come back. he told me he was only giving me one more chance and if I left again I couldnt come back ever. So I forgave him and here we are today. But I've definitely had my trust issues. I go through his phone all the time and I've never found anything since that happend So either he's actually changed or he's super good at hiding it.
Now I'm regretting everything I can tell he had me completely brainwashed and I was so in love it clouded my judgement. But I feel like Im trapped because I have no reason to break up now.
I also met this guy that I work with and he's the most amazing person. We have such a connection. I'm so happy spending time with him but I can't help feeling like a cheater because he makes me happier, but all weve ever done is talk at work
I think my problem is I'm too forgiving. And I can't stand to hurtpeople even if I end up hurting from it
(And no I haven't tried to persue this other guy but I can't help but think.. what if? Could things be better? )
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This is so sad, you should NEVER be okay with being totally dependent on another person! I don't care if you have to hustle and work your butt off to make enough money, you need to be able to take care of yourself! You shouldn't be depending on a cheating liar who, truthfully, clearly doesn't even care about you, for a place to stay. Get a job, get an apartment, get OUT!
Secondly, your "friend" who sent nudes to your boyfriend isn't a friend and if you haven't already, you need to cut contact with her. Don't be immature and try to get revenge or whatever, act like a grown woman and just know when to let people go for goodness sake. Drop the boyfriend too. You're wasting a part of your life right now and it's about high time you get it back.1