Ok so my ex of 4 years left me. Gave so much in our relationship but she left her old friends behind. I was there when her dad died n got the badge her old friends haven't. She spent a lot of her money n so did I as she got left £67,000 . I was helping to build it back up. Now she's treating me like a peice of crap. And meeting all her old friends n posting how fab they are but they never was there when she needed them. So I begged her bla bla said I was sorry for distancing my self as I was more bothered about not loosing all the money. N that so she said don't wanna be with you as don't love you I said ok so ring me n tell me if that's what you truly want ! But she won't. I said we always sort us out n your fine after she said k so I left it. I rang her after n she said why you ringing me cz I don't give a shit in a snarky forced temper. So I hung up n sent a text saying I ring as I want to discus sorting us out n stuff she didn't reply so what should I do? She seems to have missed all her old friends due to limited contact n seems to revisit old memories? Maybe she felt I prevented her? N that's all she wants right now? Should I do no contact?
Most Helpful Girl
You should back off. Give her two weeks. You did enough, so I would just wait until she responds to your texts.
In the Meantime, work on yourself. Meditate. Contact and hang with your friends. Put away everything that reminds you of her in a box. Give her and yourself time to re-evaluate your life.
Then try re-contacting her. But make sure you don't beg for her back, and have a reason to call her ready, like "Hi, I've been kinda busy today; I just wanted to swing by and pick up " insert item here." Or "Hi, do you remember " memorable place?" I forgot the way there, I wanted to take a friend there.
The point is to avoid sounding needy.0
Most Helpful Guy
She definitely won't if your acting like a bitch and begging like a pussy. Have some self respect and start valuing yourself as a person and go after what you want in life. You gotta adopt the attitude that she will either come back or she won't and get on with living your life and maybe just maybe she will come back. If she comes back and you find out she ain't been loyal dump her. If she just wants to be friends say no as you have enough friends that way you can avoid being her safety net if things go wrong for her. If she's been gone a month with little or no word forget her change your locks, change your number, block her from your social media and start dating again as lifes to short to allow people to treat you like shit.0
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