Most Helpful Girl
NO!!! NEVER cut a mother out of her kids life! Unless of course she's a danger to the kid. You need to contact her family. Her parents im sure want to see their grandson!!! Schedule visitations for them. Her parents will more than likely get on her case about this & she'll probably start feeling guilt about it. She might have post pardon depression too, which in some cases makes the mother feel like she can't be around the kid. Talk about this and the chance of her having post pardom to her parents over the phone. Tell them that you don't want to exclude them from their grandsons life & want to keep them in it and would like help to get his mother back in his life. Unless there is a danger to a kid, cutting either parent out of his life is the worst thing you can do for a kid. Trust me. She might come back around, just talk to her parents and any siblings she has
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't say to cut her out completely. Yes she may be completely screwed up at this point in her life I get that. Sort of went through the same thing myself, she may be unbalanced hormonally, bipolar, BPD, etc., you don't know that. It may take mess to get her back on track, or she hasn't grown up, maybe one day she will. You don't want your son to see you as the reason why he never had a relationship w his mom, as time goes on he will grow to realize that himself if she's still like that when he's old enough to understand. For now just let her know he's here w you, safe, well taken care of. I'd try to see about establishing sole custody legally so she can't just show up one day demanding to take him. I was like that for the first 8 years of my son's life. Similar situations, pregnant for someone else. Regardless of how screwed up she is she's always going to be his mother, you can't change that. Keep records of everything, if she stops by to see him, she gets him clothes, everything! Emails she may send in regards to him.