My boyfriend and I just had a baby 6 months ago. We are both 30 and our baby was planned and we were engaged.
Later he started having mood, behavioral, and drinking issues and we started living separately. I then caught him cheating with several women... but most recently it has come to light that he is expecting another baby so soon and the mother is in high school.
The girl's mother knows about the situation but hasn't reported it. He is living with the girl and her family :/... he's 30! He apparently talks negatively about me to these people and he is putting on an act like he isn't an alcoholic crazy asshole.
I am so disturbed that I can barely function day to day. Up until I found out we were still talking on a daily basis and on good terms again.
I've been struggling as a single mom and now I get to have the wonderful feeling of knowing that the man who is supposed to be my partner is totally incompetent and sick... is this really what my baby and I get... I don't know what my question is but I think I should change my number and... vomit? Is the Jerry Springer show still on? I don't even know how to process this.
Most Helpful Guy
It is really time to lawyer up and get a judgement for child support. Whatever else is going on, your child needs a source of support beyond what you alone can give it. During all the legal work, his current situation will probably become public. And do not back off if he suddenly tries to "make nice". That would just be him trying to get out of the legal responsibilities.7
Most Helpful Girl
The child support system is BROKEN. My boyfriend is locked into paying for two kids that aren't even his. His ex wife was cheating on him for their entire marriage, and her home state has this lovely little thing called a "paternity affidavit", and if you sign it, you waive your rights to end support later on, even if paternity test reveal that you are not the father. So I have no faith in the system being fair to all parties.
But in your case, FILE THOSE PAPERS! If he fails and falls behind in payments, at least his ass will be locked up, preventing him from doing this to anyone else. And... her parents are just as guilty. They are not only encouraging this sick behavior, rewarding him with a roof over his head, they are contributing to her and that baby being emotionally screwed up beyond repair at such an impressionable age.
I don't care how "mature" a teenager is presented to be, they are still teenagers with teenage emotions! He's now officially a sex offender in the eyes of the law. This also means you can have him ruled as unsafe to be around your child and bar him from visitation while still obligating him to pay.2