I went on a date with a girl, we both seemed to like each other, kissed at the end. Were going to go on another but ended up getting back with ex, but told me that she did like me though, but she wants to give him another chance, even though he treated her badly the first time. She said she wants to remain friends, we did and continued to get on so well. I felt like I should have fought for her origonally but didn't. My friends thought that she still liked me and that I should tell her how I feel so as to get it off my chest. I did so, and she didn't feel the same but was really apoligetic and said if she lead me on she didn't mean to. But she stressed that she didn't want to lose me as a friend, I said that if she thinks it would be easier on her relationship if we weren't friends then I would understand, but she didn't want to she said maybe we just speak less. I was going to say goodbye but she said she wanted to continue talking, we ended up talking and laughing for an hour, we left it as we'll talk later. This happend Tuesday and haven't heard from her since. I was wondering if we are going to be able to stay friends, I think she wants to but her boyfriend is really jealous of the fact that we talk and thinks there was already something going on between us, so I feel he would not allow her to be friends with me. Secondly, should I text her apoligising for causing a problem as we don't have many friends and we both agreed we love talking to each other. But she might now have to choose between keeping me as a friend or her boyfriend. Finally, should I leave her to herself and wait to see if she wants to talk to me.
- Can't stay friendsVote A
- Can stay friends, message her apologisingVote B
- Can stay friends, but leave her to talk firstVote C
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It sucks, but you gotta back away (no contact, unless she initiates).
First, it's the right thing to do. She has history with the boyfriend and you're meddling because you like her. If she broke up completely, then the story would be different but you're not a "friend." You're a guy she like romantically (and vice versa).
Just think, if you were trying to work things out with an ex, would you want some other dude sniffing around - pretending to be her "friend" when he really wants her as a gf? No.
Second, backing away will make her miss you more (depending on how much she likes you). If things don't work out with the boyfriend, you'll probably be the first guy she calls.
Last, don't apologize. Don't explain. Speaking from several experiences like this, you'll either never see her again or she'll have a fight with the boyfriend, dump him, and coming running to you. Either way, don't sit around waiting. Meet other girls and don't sit around all miserable hoping she'll call.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE