Long story short; I am dating an AMAZING guy but we are graduationg and he's going to Korea and I'm going to U. S. Honestly, I've been crying over the thought of seperating but I also know he is new to the dating world (me being his first for everything) and I know he's curious. I don't know what to do.
Furthermore, I only did LD once and it turned out horrible. The guy became possesive and needy and called me a liar whenever I told him something.
What should I do..
- Break Up58%(11)64%(23)Vote71%(12)
- Do Long Distance42%(8)36%(13)Vote29%(5)
Most Helpful Guy
Honestly I would say breakup. I hate to say that but both of you are very young, there's a big world out there where anything is possible. He may not like it but you just have to explain to him that you want him to live his life, that there will be plenty of time for settling down. I don't understand young kids, especially females who by high school, want to settle down w someone knowing there's a big world out there. Both of you need to get out there and live your lives, experience life before you settle down. Once you settle down a lot changes, especially after you get married and have children. You may run the risk of hurting him by breaking up but I think in the long run you'd be doing him a favor. You may even run the risk of him not talking to you anymore. There's always a chance for things to work out in the future, but this is the time to get out and live. To get all that stuff out of your system, whether that's partying, meeting other men or women, etc. Besides you don't want to end up hurt even more if he cheats or something. The two of you will most likely be to busy for one another, especially in a LD relationship.0
Most Helpful Girl
I think it's better to break up. I tried long distance for 3 years and I can say it's really hard and it would destroy you emotionally. That's why we decided to break up and just focus on our studies. It was hard, I cried the the first few months especially because we are each other's firsts. We remain as friends though :) we greet each other on birthdays and stuff. He's coming back here after 3 years. I guess when the time comes, we'd just decide if we want to get back together or not. (if neither of us has a relationship)
Maybe you could do the same, break up and give each other space to pursue your career. Afterwards, see if you want to get back together (if both of you return to your country, that is.)
But in the end, it's still your decision. Good luck!1