I have already asked but could use more.
The two of us have been together for six years. I am 32 and she is 36. She has 3 children from her previous relationship but to me, her and the kids I am their father. I love them and treat them as if they were mine. They call me dad and I see them almost everyday since the break up. Previous to the break up we had a great relationship. We were both deeply inlove with each other with minimal problems (or at least we both thought). We have small arguments about finance and children discipline just as any other relationship. Over the past three years I have been going to school and taking care of the children as a stay home dad. I recieved my degree in criminal just and recently graduated from the police academy. Over the past 6 months I have been unemployed and looking for a job. I recently got the opportunity to work with the Coast guard and have a interview next week with another agency.
We both quit drinking around 3 years ago and at the begining I was doing well, although I occasionly would stop for a beer once in a while. While in the acedemy I didn't drink and when I first returned home I was sober for a while.. I love my kids and my family but had some troubles with being a stay at home dad. I just wanted to work. April 11 I went out and Had a drink by myself and ended up having more then one. I women across the bar came and sat next to me and begun to talk. We spoke for an hour and she seemed intrested in my stories was easy to talk to. She was not attractive was just easy to talk to. after another two hours I relized I needed to go home she followed me out to my car and kissed me and I kissed back. At this time my fiancé pulled up to see this all happening next to my jeep. As she pulled up and called my name I was stunned. "what just happened" my finace pulled away and I stood there stunned as the women continued to stand with me holding my hand. My fiance pulled back around to see this and was furious.
I went home to her angry and she asked me to get my stuff and move out. She packed me a bag and I went to a hotel. Since then I went to visit my mother in Cali to give her space but still called about every three days and we argued.
Most Helpful Girl
If you love her give her what she wants and let her go. Dont make it harder on her.
Imagine if you saw her kissing and holding hands with another guy. wouldn't your mind be racing? wouldn't that be devestating?
Nothing you say is going to make her trust you again. Nor does it feel good to not be trusted in a relationship. This one, can't be repaired.
Perhaps it just wasn't meant to be. Maybe this is a learning opportunity for you. You had ahat sound like a deep conversation with a stranger for an hour. That 60 minutes of time that you could've stopped and thought where this interaction could lead to. Then this women walk you out. Another red flag you couldve stopped. Then kisses you - a third opportunity you couldve backed out but didn't!
Maybe next time you'll stop situations like these before they get this far. Maybe now you'll also finally address your drinking habits as this is where it lead you. And lastly - in your next relationship maybe you'll actually discuss you personal issuesvwith your spouse and work on them as a team instead of a stranger.
Most Helpful Guy
Well it's over cause is she forget trust you then no point in the relationship...
I think you should show her that you have changed over the period of time.. And she might true you back... But I think it's over as she did she would never trust you0