I recently met a guy in February, we started dating after our 3rd date, he said he wanted more than friends. We've spent a couple of months together in which I've met some of his friends and family. He's met my kids. He declared love for me about a month into it and said I was special to him, he said he was so glad he's met me etc. He made me feel truly special. We recently spent the wk end together but he seemed a little distant during the week. I get a text from him saying was he reading too much into the lack of communication. I sent him a text the next day asking if his feeling had changed and that if so to just say instead of letting me down gently. He then hits me with a text saying he doesn't see it working long term for us. No apologies nothing. I told him I understood and thanks for saying. I was wondering why he'd say all that about loving me, knowing I had kids and then just dump me via a text. Is this guy confused or just a spineless coward. I'm truly gutted and don't know if I should let him just go?
Most Helpful Guy
hi 41 close to my age,,, Run Dump him or slow down big time,, him fear i bet is kicking his butt an lots of confusion now he, s seeing the big picture i think we all guilty of it at first its lust, then hopefully love but its kinda been proven in studys aprox 3 months the lust an great sex slows down an the bigger picture an thinking, the fears, confusion of kids moneys commentments i bet there so many things going on between his ears maybe give it time sounds like he needs it an if your worth it he well figure things out... whats the saying first three month is lust then reality kicks in1
Most Helpful Girl
Why did you not say that he should not be reading into lack of communication? It seemed as if he was worried that you were backing off so maybe he was trying to protect himself or beat you to the punch. If you did and just left that out then I would say that it always seems guys are really into someone at first then they get scared or see things they actually do not like and then they leave. Women seem to be a little more cautious and then decide to let their guards down and start liking someone after a little while. At least in my experience, it seems by the time I decide I like someone, they are backing off. So, maybe that is what happened.0