I have been dating this guy for over four years and I am 18 years old. And he dumped me out of the blue for someone else at first than came back when he got rejected. And now we have been off and on. He says we can't be together because he is leaving for college and yet he says I just don't have those sexual feelings for you, but yet when were not together he begs for me back and misses me and says he loves me. But yet he wants to be my friend. Let me tell you I was his first girlfriend.. I truly thought he was the one? I quit don't understand any advice would be great!
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds like he just using you for sex or physical attention. When he can't get it from anyone else he bounces back to you because in his eyes, you're a sure thing.
Cut him off completely, you are young and deserve someone who wants to dedicate himself to you full-time if that's what you want.2
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Most Helpful Girl
He is in the same place I am. Only difference is he is not being open with you. 4 years gets tough and you begin to question what you are doing and when you get too attached to someone you lose touch with yourself. He probably really loves you but doesn't know what he wants in the end. If ur his first then he is just curious of what its like to date other people. Him not feeling the sexual spark anymore is because he is confused and been with you for so long. Its normal. That's something that can be personal to him or just needs some spontaneous change from you in the bedroom like when you first had sex with each other. Him dating others is him trying to figure out himself. Me, personally, I let my boyfriend know how I feel about everything even if it may be hard for him to handle. Its sounds crazy, but I've once asked him if he'd allow me to talk to another guy and possibly have sex if I got that far. He was mad but said yes. He allowed it because at the time I was going through things I could not explain. After having sex with my boyfriend I would cry for no reason and much deeper feeling I can't explain. I wanted to know if it was just me or because of my boyfriend. I never had sex with that guy and he forgave me. And now since he's my first boyfriend I really love him but just curious of wanting to date other people. I feel if I don't have the experience now I will feel tied down in the future and may be a bad wife if I don't get the general experience out of my system. Although I'm scared to leave him, its a lot harder for him, but understands. We keep in contact but he let's me be and trusts me. He is scared too but he'd rather me get it out now than later when it is too late. Hope my story has helped. I know not many would allow that, but you can't explain the things you do for love. I would rather be honest and upfront than cheat and ruin something that can could have been talked out.0