Why is it so hard to get over someone you love?

Im still in love with my ex and it's been a year and a half since he broke up with me, I didn't want to be friends and told him that but he continued to contact me throughout the 1.5 years. It just hurts so much cause he comes in and out of my life. I tried walking away so many times but every time I fail, because he'll keep texting or trying to call and I give in. He means everything to me but he doesn't want to be with me anymore but I don't get why he still wants me in his life.

How do I walk away without it killing me inside?


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  • because you bonded (bonding chemicals) and he keeps showing up and re-igniting the attraction. I had the same challenge with a prior girlfriend. break away, spend time together, rebond... same issues show up.

    You need to be apart to break those bonds and process the emotions. Tell him it is over and not to contact you any further, block him. it sucks, but that is what I believe has to be done. Or restart and go into counseling. Either way, get counseling.

    People think this stuff is all fun and games sometimes (not you), but it isn't, it really really hurts...

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Most Helpful Girl

  • You just have to for the sake of yourself and moving on. Sorry, that is the only option. It hurts but you can't do this forever so you just have to. Ignore him if he contacts you. SO much easier said than done, I know! But that is the only way. Never get over him or cut him out completely. You will move on and feel better one day, I promise! It is killing you having him in your life too, but that could go on forever if you let it. If you walk away it will kill you for a little while but it will end.

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What Guys Said 4

  • they were a huge part of your life physically and emotionally. it's hard to suddenly move on to a life without that person

    how do you walk away? remember that you are and were a person before the relationship and that you can be a person after it. you have friends and family that love you and there are always other potential partners out there

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  • love is a bitch when things go south.

    it takes more than just time, you actually have to try and get over him by doing things, staying active, exploring life in ways you never have, and when you're ready for it, finding a new partner.

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  • So basically when he wants you to spread your legs you do it with ease but yet you still cling on him hoping that will change his mind. You know the answer to that already but I know you won't do it

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  • Just think of his negatives and move on, to get over someone you have to get under someone else
    Wait
    Wut
    Lmao

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What Girls Said 2

  • Hard pill to swallow. You just have to decide when you've had enough. You'll get tired of feeling like shit eventually and the back and forth and you'll get the strength from that to move on.

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  • meh because you give them everything and they toss you over!

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