Social media just ruined my relationship, what should I do to make it up to her?

Girlfriend broke up with me for liking IG pics. I always knew it bothered her but not so much that it upset her and now I feel like a d*ck. She told me it was hurting her seeing me constantly " letting other girls I find them attractive". And she goes to bed crying every night because I make her feel worthless and not respected.

We get along so well, she's just this sweet girl who wouldn't hurt anyone so I'm doing everything to get her back but she's having none of it. Then I came on here and saw a few posts from girls on this topic. And I honestly never realized how much it upset them. So for those girls on here any advice? What should I do to make it up to her?

Ohh and my age is 25 not 36 to 45 couldn't see the numbers earlier.


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Most Helpful Girl

  • This used to bother me a lot before I found my self confidence. I'm not going to say that it never bothers me anymore, it does, but I have learned that in order to fully love and trust my SO, I need to fully love and trust in myself. I trust him fully and don't really pay attention to who posts or likes what because I am secure in myself, him, and our relationship.

    She sounds extremely insecure -crying herself to sleep over IG likes? She's got to learn to love herself and trust. If it's not IG then it will be something else and you will always be walking on eggshells. I'm not telling you to not stop, feelings are important and hers are hurt by this , but there is a deeper issue that needs resolving here in order to not keep cycling through this scenario in new forms.

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  • Social media didn't ruin your relationship. You did.
    If you knew it bothered her, and you still did it, that is an intentional action that you chose to do. Don't blame the medium for your own actions.

    If your ex-gf didn't like you drinking and going to the club to dance with other girls and you still did it, would you blame the beer and the club? No. It's your fault.

    When you actually begin to realize who's at fault (you), rather than pointing the finger elsewhere, maybe you'll figure out what she needs to hear to make things better.

    I suspect she has existing trust issues from past relationships that have gone sour. Perhaps an ex-bf cheated on her, or that he watched a lot of porn and stared at other women. If you're liking photos of hot models, she probably sees you as exhibiting the same behavior as other men who have wronged her. Good job.

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What Girls Said 14

  • in my opinion as an adult female, girls like that are insane. commanding and controlling you and telling you what you can like. that is insane and i would never let a man tell me what to do if roles were reversed.

    when there is trust in a relationship there is trust.

    girls dont like it cus they dont trust you or because it make them look bad. but holy shit its just dumbass social media

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  • She sounds rather crazy, i wouldn't care if someone liked instragram pics- she seems a little unstable. You could try apologising but if something as small as this is enough to break up for her then it probably isn't worth being in the relationship if she's that controlling.

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  • Damn... try doing a surprise dinner for her you made yourself and you have to make it look romantic. Hmmm have you seen think like a man? When it's about the cook and the business women? I don't know, if I actually knew you or her I could tell you something better

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  • You should tell her you'd never do it again. Tell her you didn't realize how much it hurt her that you just want to be there for her and make her happy. Tell her how much you miss her and say you'll do anything to get her back.
    (I'm not much of a genius but I am a woman and I'm sure I'd like to hear that)

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  • She wouldn't forgive you easily, you'd have to do something bigger than usual. Sing to her, constant flowers, etc. The first thing you should do is stop liking those pictures!

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  • If a girl breaks up with you for liking a pic on IG, she is not worth it.. But I don't know, I'm not a girl that cares about who likes the pictures, so I find it crazy.

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  • I don't know I only use social for liking stars' and music pages. I use snapchat for friends... I think she takes it too srsly.

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  • You should stop maybe ask her what she needs you to do to make it up to her and if you're serious about her you will do it

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  • I honesty don't give a fuck, but she did apparently

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  • I don't feel bad for you. If you knew it bothered her you would've stopped.

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  • Honestly I think the whole liking another girls pic etc. ridiculous.

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  • I was seeing a guy who never liked my pics but noticed he was liking his ex's pictures. That was horrible. We were just seeing each other a little bit but it made me wonder why he still liked her pics and drove home the fact that we weren't "there" I guess the way him and his ex were. It sucked. Yeah, I would say if is safe to just not like other girls pics, what is the point anyways? It would make me insecure too.

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  • Delete and unlike all the pics. Let her be for a day or so. Write her a cute apology letter and take her out for dinner!

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  • Start begging and delete your ig or unfollow your hoes at least. You know it's that hard not to like a girls picture knowing your girlfriend would see it you totally showed her no respect.

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What Guys Said 7

  • Don't make it up to her, you're allowed to like other people's Instatwat pictures. If she feels worthless and not respected because of that, that is her problem, not yours, and her dumping you over that also means she doesn't want your help in overcoming her problem.

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  • lol, I think she's making a very big deal out of it... but you could also have stopped doing it when she asked you to. Well, if she ever gets back with you, you know what to do (or what not to do).

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  • Like the girls said, delete your account or at least unfollow all those "hoes." Keep in mind I'm assuming these are Instagram models not your actual friends. If these are your friends she doesn't want you liking then it's another story entirely. Liking a friends if is almost like courtesy now a days, if she gets pissed at that then it sounds like a symptom as opposed to the actual problem. It could be that there is someone in particular who she doesn't want you liking or she's just plain insecure like that. Then again, it could indeed just be a trivial matter and you're the only one in the position to know which it is. If you're going to plead with her about this, you need to make sure other problems of the same reasoning won't come up later.

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  • Look how all the girls don't care about their SO liking other girls pictures...

    Its just an act bro.. they all care,

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  • You SCUM!

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  • She was a little insecure.

    You were a little strangely obsessed with looking at hot girls on the internets.

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  • Your girlfriend needs to grow up.

    Classic signs of insecurity.

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