My last girlfriend broke up with me in November. She cut off contact with me and told. me she wanted me to move on because she didn't want me holding out hope for a future that couldn't happen. I moved on and met someone else. Now she's mad at me because I found someone else and didn't fight harder for her. She is now telling people I lied about how much I loved her if I can move on and not fight for her. The truth is, I loved her and I wanted nothing more than to stay with her. But she made it clear she didn't want me anymore. Moving on was best for me and her or so I thought. Had I fought for her I feel like I would have driven her away more and been creepy in the process. Is this a no win situation for me and would she have hated me no matter what I did?
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like she was trying to see if you would fight for her, which is ridiculous, you walked away with pride. Now she is mad that when she broke up with you that you took that seriously and moved on. She sounds crazy, needy and kind of mean. So sorry you didn't fight harder for "her majesty"! Who cares if she thinks that now, you know how you felt and you know that she made it clear that she didn't want you. Good for you for moving on and do not look back. If you did happen to go back, she would probably break up with you again within months.1
Most Helpful Guy
Not exactly the same situation but close here. My ex broke it off lat October. Stating I never cared about her and blah blah blah BS.. Wanted to stay friends. I chased her a bit for about 4-6 weeks, then started thinking I had my own reasons to end the relationship and some fairly good ones too. So I IMed her, told her I was okay with the break up and yes we could be friends. She got pissed.. Cussed me the next time we IMed, so I didn't IM her anymore. Went out of town on V-day weekend with my mom sister and brother in law, didn't IM didn't contact her. A bunch of our friends were making vague-book post about who were you with where did you go, not to me just vague post that seemed very deliberate to me. Then I noticed she started removing herself from groups, so I IMed her ask her if she was going to just delete herself out of my life, she said no, 3 days later blocked me. Ladies if you dont care enough about the relationship to work on it and fight for it, dont expect us too. If you dump someone, dont expect that they will just linger around waiting on you to come back, they very well may quickly move on. I am still not seeing anyone because I have not met anyone I have really connected with yet. I am sure she thinks I am though. The reasons I had to want out were a situation, that will at some point have to change.. But she was not willing to put the work in to make the situation viable for me.. Why she wanted out is beyond me to the day. Why she's so angry baffles me.. I didn't want to break up with her, tried to talk her into not breaking up. We had a good connection over all.. Now just shot to f***... I feel your pain man.. And your confusion...1