A few short weeks ago I made the tough decision of breaking up with my boyfriend of over a year. Long story short we grew apart, and with me going to college in the Fall I felt that it was for the best. Recently a girl that had been chasing my boyfriend before and during the time that we were dating described to me in great detail their newly professed love...
Is it wrong for me to feel absolutely terrible right now? I know I'm the one who ended things, but that didn't make the news any less painful. Is it normal for me to feel jealous and upset that he's moving on so quickly?
Most Helpful Guy
sounds normal. You lost a guy, and someone else now "Feels" happy (double whammy). It sounds to me like you didn't fully disconnect or put it into perspective. You left because of logistical issues (it sounds) not because you don't care about him... the bonds are still there in your "heart"/mind. So, will take time to separate those and be happy for them. Not easy, girls bond more than guys and it hurts. Counseling can help if you can afford it. Or talk it up, pray it up, go to a divorce group, read a book on getting over X, etc.. Don't rush out and find someone else until you process your feelings.
Most Helpful Girl
He's moving on in his own way, but I feel like that would bite him in the butt if he treasured the relationship. Guys have a way of trying to distract themselves by avoiding their feelings and emotions, but have no real way of confronting those feelings until they crack one day. Women, on the other hand, have a lot of opportunities and emotional outlets with family and friends to properly grieve.
But I can't speak on his behalf on how he felt. However, just worry about you. It's normal to be jealous and hurt, but it's now time to grieve. When you're ready to meet someone new, you will be emotionally ready for it instead of rushing into another relationship to fill that hole. May I ask if your ex had expressed any interest in the girl? How did he take the breakup?1