He took me for granted. Rarely made time for us. All he wanted to do is make out, etc. Emotionally closed off
He was controlling and manipulative (no pictures or posts). He blamed me and my attitude for reacting to the things he did. It’s his way or the highway. Rarely apologized. He’s lied to me and his friends about pointless things ( said we'd slept together when we hadn't). Hot and cold. He didn't entirely respect me (didn't want to slow things down/ go backwards)
His friends even knew he wasn't trying.
Do you think he could ever realize he messed up and change?
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People rarely change in any significant ways. Most people feel quite content and justified in acting the way they do and they have no motivation for change. It happens on occasion, but significant change is rare. He may say the right words to convince you to give him another chance but he will still be the same guy.
When a couple is together for any length of time and then break up, there is usually some fault or contribution from both of the partners. Don't be so anxious to throw him under the bus that you fail to look at how you handled the relationship and what you could have done differently.