I was dating my boyfriend for 2+ years...on and off in the beginning but committed for the past year, moved in w/him in July...me and my daughter both...he has 2 kids w/2 moms...we were happy and a nice little family for a while, but moving in was a big mistake and I wasn't ready for it. I had a hard time adjusting, I think I resented that my living there made his life significantly easier (financially, me taking care of everyone etc) and mine got so much harder (taking on his burdens etc when used to just taking care of me and my daughter). We had amazing times, we got along so well, laughing and joking and amazing sex...but when we'd fight even over the littlest thing, it would always turn into a HUGE mess...my heart was there in it all, I loved him so much, and he loved me more than anything...but all the resentment made me say and do things to push him away. He finally had enough about 2 months ago and told me he was done, so I moved out. During our 2+ years together I always hated the second baby mama, he used her as his perpetual Plan B, always going to her at the end of any relationship, using her to keep from even getting into a relationship, which he did to me when we first met...i hate her. While we were dating they only spoke regarding their daugter and I even asked him during our breakup if he was going to turn to her yet again, he said she is the LAST person he'd turn to and many many conversations were had DURING our relationship about how he just didn't and couldn't love her like that and had tried so many times for the sake of it making his life easier but he could not...he strung her along for 5 years and every time she takes him back...less than a month after I moved out, they are in a relationship and she and her 2 daugthers (one not his) are moving in to the house I just left! This man was crazy in love with me and now that I have left he suddenly is back with the one person he knows it kills me for him to be with and so quickly. I am and have been in agonizing pain over the breakup and he has moved on so quickly...is he doing this to forget about me? She is the polar opposite of me...holy roller, lame, boring, uninteresting and just plain...plain. I am outgoing, funny, have tons of friends and am always the the kind of person people want to be around...how can he possibly be happy with her? Is he just doing this to forget about me?
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First of all, the relationship is over. The more you think about it the longer it will take you to get over it. You don't have a say in his life anymore so stop worrying/caring what he is doing. Focus on your life and your daughter.
Second, it seems pretty clear that he has a pattern of rebounding to this girl (probably because she takes him back so easily and quickly). Granted he said those things to you about her, but you have to consider his position when he said them (namely he was dating you and presumably happy to be with you). He sounds like the type of person that can't bear to be alone.
But getting back to my first point, who cares? His life doesn't concern you anymore. Focus on your own life and your daughters.3
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