Took girlfriend for granted, what the hell do I do now?
What Girls Said 1
She has a mind of her own and can do whatever she wants when she's not in a relationship. You cannot put conditions on her when you're not in a relationship. You screwed up man, sorry.
What Guys Said 1
Look, you had chances to quit smoking, cut back on the Xbox, and treat her like she deserved to be treated, and you blew those chances. Now the relationship is over, and she's free to do what she wants.
It sounds like she's willing to consider taking you back if you actually change, but she's right to expect you to prove it over some period of time. Otherwise, she'll take you back and you'll probably do like you did all those other times, you'll start smoking and playing Xbox and blowing her off.
Now you've gotta win her back, you need to prove that you can change and that it's not just a temporary change. Let her do her thing. If you're really committed to this, do it. Get 30 days under your belt, then check in with her. Make some changes for the better. Maybe go running for 30 minutes every day and work out a little bit, get into better shape (physical results she can see... proof that you're not just sitting in front of the Xbox chain smoking cigarettes and pot). Don't expect her to welcome you back right away, either... Maybe it takes more time, and maybe it doesn't happen at all. Either way, you'll either win her back and you'll have some positive momentum built up to start this second chapter of your relationship with her on the right foot, or if you don't win her back you'll be primed and ready to go for a new relationship, and you won't be at as much a risk of screwing the next one up like this last one.
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