My ex loves me- I'm not trying to sound egotistical. We broke up a couple of months ago because I got tired of our long distance relationship. We still talk every day and he's my best friend. I know he's not the one I'm looking for, but I don't want to hurt him. I am also a little reluctant on getting into another relationship because I'm so used to him.
He was my first real relationship.
I've been talking to this guy (sort of accidentally): he seems decent and seems to like me. He's asked me out a couple of times but I haven't responded. I feel like I shouldn't let this pass by but I don't know what to do. I'm sure that my ex and I will stop being friends if I started hanging out with this other guy: I don't want to lose him as a friend...
Ack! I don't know how to deal with this drama. Opinions are much appreciated.
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Well, I'll give you non-biased advice and I'll give you my spin on it. Well, the fact is that you aren't going out with your ex-boyfriend anymore. He had his chance. If you're going to move on to a new guy, he shouldn't suddenly be surprised. He should be expecting it, seeing as he should know by now that you aren't dating anymore.
Now, to the opinionated advice... I think that you should try something new. I mean, like I said above, your ex-boyfriend got his chance. Now, if you move on, and your ex-boyfriend is offended and doesn't want to be there for you, is he really the kind of person you want around anyway? I mean, I don't mean to be rude or whatever, but I'm trying to be as blunt as possible without being offensive. If he's just going to ignore you and give you the cold shoulder because you're pursuing something that makes you happy, then his agenda has changed from caring for you to making you miserable... and that's not okay.
Bottom line: "I" think you should at least give the new guy a chance or try something new... But the fact is, it's your choice in the end.0