I have this situation with my ex and I can't help obsessing about it. She broke up with me a month ago after 5 months. She said she feels she owes it to the father of her child to try to work it out. Throughout this month she has been giving me a ton of mixed signals, telling me to move on one moment, calling to tell me she loves me the as recently as Friday. While we were together I was writing poetry for her. So I bound all the poems in a book and left them on her desk this morning. I just wanted her to have them but it wouldn't bother me in the least if reading them started us on the road to reconciliation. She tells me today that she wants to talk to me about the book, but she wants to do it in person, but can't do it today and wants to wait until tomorrow. If she were really happy about the book she would have talked today right? Wanting to wait until tomorrow can't be good news, can it?
What can this mean?
What Girls Said 1
It doesn't sound like it. What you did was so sweet ( are you OK with "sweet"? I can't think of the word I want to use at the moment) but at the same time maybe in her mind, a little inappropriate. She also sounds so conflicted and maybe doesn't want that reminder? If you were in her ex's/partner's place, would you want her to have that gift? Or would you think it a little disrespectful, however you meant it, to give them to her in these circumstances.
This situation you are must be wrecking your head too. The best thing you can do is your own thing, away from her for a while. Have a break from it. This isn't healthy.
No matter what happens she and her ex are bonded for life, and they have to figure out the best way forward. For them, for their child, and for everybody else.
You being there won't be helping any of you.0
What Guys Said 2
I love how much you're into her, your love is palpaple
However, you're too negative and unsure in your thinking right now. Yes, she is however she is but YOU need to be centered. While you're spending so much time trying to figure out what she's thinking (and we have all been there) you're like a flag in the wind, ungrounded.
Notice you wouldn't want to be with a person like that. Therefore you should abandon your efforts to read her mind, and instead focus on your own happiness.
Do something that makes you happy and do your best not to think of her. It can be done.
If talking to her makes you on balance more unhappy, stop doing that too. It's unhealthy, and your primary concern should be your own happiness and balance.
Hope this helps and I know it takes something. There's just no way to convince somebody to come back.0
No it's not good news dude. Your pushing her into a corner that she can't back out from and your pushing her away. She is still in love with her ex and it's worth a shot to see if it works. Trust me I've been there and it's not pretty. Be patient and if she comes back she does if not that's you know it wasn't meant to be. Sorry I didn't have better advice for you0
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