And how badly did it hurt?
Were you expecting it?
Were they in your league?
Most Helpful Girl
Well, just this weekend and a couple weeks back... by the same guy... my boyfriend. Well, EX-boyfriend now. We were having problems and broke up, but then for 3 weeks he couldn't let me go and would text me drunk or call me or snapchat me and finally I got fed up with it after he revealed he hooked up with someone to me after I told him I didn't want to know. I sent him a rant text to him which had harsh words in it, but if you knew our relationship, they were well deserved. Everything I said was true and I didn't exaggerate. I just let him know I was done with him for good.
He texts me back an hour later and wants to talk things out, but then two minutes after he sends a text asking if he can call me, he texts me again saying: "Yknow what, nevermind. I'm not sorry my friends came first, but I hope you find someone better for you."
***Sidenote: He always put his friends before me in our relationship. He has a lot of friends that are girls and as a girl with a guy bff I know some girls can get a little nervous that they may lose their guy friend and be a little territorial, but they took it way too far and he never seemed to see it. I don't want him to just cut his friends off, but when you get in a relationship, you have to prioritize your partner. It doesn't mean you just stop talking to your friends, but you have to set different boundaries, which he never wanted to do for me. ***
In my text, I asked him to stop with the apologies because I was sick of hearing them. So, I don't know why he even mentioned an apology. He could have just said "never mind." I'm pretty sure he was pissed that I rejected him for good and then felt like he needed to have the last words so he decided to say that to me. I was NOT expecting that.
It didn't hit me at first how harsh his words were, but as I kept on reading them I realized that they were really hurtful. In the past two years I've had 2 people already tell me that I wasn't as important to them as someone else and to hear it from my ex-bf (who I knew still cared about me despite his shit behavior) was devastating. I didn't cry the first or the second day after receiving the text, but it hit me on the third day and I just bawled my eyes out.
I was out of his league, not the other way around. I deserved better and he knew that and I knew that, but I let love blind me. My friends all knew as well. We actually had a lot of drama happening at the beginning of our relationship because people thought I deserved better0
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Most Helpful Guy
The last time I got rejected was 4 years ago. I was working at a pizza place, and there was this banging hot Middle Eastern 10. I had not known I was attracted to Middle Eastern women, but damn she was fine. I had sworn off women, still, at this point after an engagement with the love of my life fell through. After she fucked a bunch of dudes in Basic Training, and I fucked her best friend. Awkwwwward. So, disillusioned and suffering--from a *lot* more than just that--I swore off all relationships and females. That was when I was 18, after a couple rebounds that I felt nothing for, despite trying.
This girl at work, always wearing tight yoga pants. She kept coming on to me. She grabbed my ass at one point, and I was like "Dude. That's sexual harassment." Mostly just because I didn't think she was actually into me. Another girl said "Yeah, it was. I saw that." I should have filed on her amazing ass, but I'm sure I would have just been laughed out of the office. And really, I was *profoundly* attracted to her, so I didn't care.
So, she kept coming on to me. And eventually, I just got weak. She wore me down. I was telling a male coworker about female subtle signals, then, right after, this bitch started doing them right in front of me. It was so obvious; I knew what she was doing, but I got stupid.
She kept coming, kept pushing. Playing tag with me, literally and figuratively chasing me, food fighting, and sparking the puppy beneath my broken, misanthropic, blackened heart.
So I rationalized it. I thought, "Well, maybe I could help her somehow." And so. I broke. I asked her out.
I kept asking her out on dates, and she always found an excuse. I was going to take her to a cheap Italian restaurant. I even bought a rose, for fucks sake. My dick got the better of me, but I was also happy with the hope of not being alone again. Back when I still gave a shit.
I should have known a girl like that wouldn't want me. She was a rich girl, too, so no way.
The embarrassment is what hurt the most. I told my coworkers "Did you really think I was interested in her? She's an idiot."
The only reason she did it was to prove that she could. This other female coworker had said that "No, he's sworn off women. You'll never get him." So she wanted to prove she could. And she proved it. I'll never be taken for a ride like that again.
Yes. It hurt. Pretty bad.
I should have known, but I didn't.
Miles above my league.0