I posted another question about my situation earlier this week. Basically, my boyfriend of almost a year is moving to California in 3 months, and he didn't see how a long-distance relationship would work since we're both just still in high school. So I guess technically we'll be "breaking up" when he leaves. But both of us still love each other, and that's what will be the hardest part.
He made it sound like we'll still be friends, so my question is, what's the best way to do that? We were friends before we went out, so I think we can still be friends after, even though it'll be different.
Should I tell him that we shouldn't talk to each other for a while so we can get used to the emotional separation, and then start talking again and restarting our friendship? Or should we keep talking and just gradually end our relationship and start a friendship? Because what's going to be the hardest part is not saying "I love you" to him anymore, or telling him how much I miss him and all that. Because even though sometimes now we don't see each other every day, we still text each other and talk to each other all day. So should that come to an abrupt stop, or gradual? I want to do whatever is best in order to be good friends with him, even though it'll be hard no matter what.
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There is absolutely no best way to remain friends with an ex. Well, at least in my experience. You basically go from what you've explained about seeing, texting, I love you, I miss you... etc.. to nothing more than Hi how are you, what's up etc... It's completely different.
Space and time is your best chance here to remain friends. As time goes by, you will both continue on with your lives. You will be with other people and experience other things. I guess you'll both have to decide how much of friends you want to remain. Are we talking about speaking terms, seeing each other etc? As you both get on with your lives separate, things will come into play. Like new relationships for example. It might not be good for a new relationship if you are still hung up on staying friends with your ex. So you have to just let it go and give it time.
I have about 3 or 4 ex's on my Facebook and these are ex's from years ago. We chat once in awhile and catch up on each others lives etc. I'm thankful for that, but honestly, that's all I really want with my ex's. Relationships end for a reason. Some end well and some end terribly. If you can eventually keep in touch with this guy, it could be a good thing, but if it doesn't work, don't beat yourself up over it and move on. You have a while life ahead of you.0