So my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Moved in together after about 4-5 months, which was probably too soon. I love her to death, but she is incredibly self destructive, and irresponsible. She has extreme anxiety and depression at times, and has finally started to medicate herself, but I feel like the damage has been done.
When we first started dating she had 2 jobs, but a "friend" that she worked with convinced her to quit her job to work somewhere else, but lied to her about how much money she would be making. Eventually she was broke and in debt. She was going to move in with her mother, but I suggested she move in with me instead. Should have just let her move in hind sight.
Since then she has had probably 8 different jobs, and has quit 3 of them during times when we were "breaking up". Had a fight said we were through, only to make up a few days later after she would miss work or quit her job to move out. I will never understand why she does this. I think she just feels like she needs to start fresh, but it just ends up fucking her over.
I have stuck through this, and supported her throughout this entire relationship basically. But because of this behavior. Our attraction has dwindled. I still love her more than anyone, but she also stresses me the fuck out. I am constantly worried about her bills, her debt, her dog, and how she is going to get to work (she doesn't have a car either, it was repossessed because she couldn't make the payments.) I have sacrificed a lot in the relationship and she just seems to take and take. I know she doesn't mean to do this, but that is what scares me. I fear this is just how she is.
She knows the problem, and "tries" to work on it, but it all seems to go back after a week or two. I don't even want to have sex with her most of the time, and it really hurts me to feel that way. I told her I couldn't do this anymore, and she needs to move out so I can have a friend move in and start saving some money.
She wants to try and move out but keep dating. See if taking some responsibility away will restart our relationship.