i feel really pathetic but I'm really hurt by this guy.. Even though we aren't in a relationship (for some reason I feel my feelings are invalid then?)
He isn't looking to settle or give so much time to a female right now. I constantly set myself up only to get crushed 70% of the time bc he blows me off or cancels last minute. Not to mention the knowledge I have that because we aren't exclusive he could be taking other women out as well. I would be down for him 100% but it just isn't realistic bc I want more than what he can give me, and we have somewhat discussed this... I know he is getting over pain from a previous relationship in which he was cheated on, but I can't be brought down with him during his period of uncertainty. It just sucks that we've been seeing each other for 5/6 weeks now, and now I have to let go.. Let go of the "what ifs" what could have been and whatever.
Any ways to make this easier? What if he contacts me, how do I let go, how do I say no? We are in a good place, nothing happened but my needs not being met. I haven't told him how strongly I feel. I've been playing it beyond cool with him, and when he cancels I act unphased, but really this last time I spent the night crying. I open my time for him, do him favors, would love to see him anytime... I have 36 unread messages in my text messages right now from guys wanting to take me out... And here I am caught up in the littlest hope for a guy who may not be there. And each time I feel like we are getting closer, he does something small and I become really affected by it. I have never been so excited about a guy before, craving to know him and grow with him.. And now I have to say goodbye, and it just really sucks. But I know if I don't cut him off then I will continuously be brought down bc I keep hoping he will grow to want to be with me since we haven't gotten to know each other that much yet. We are still very much in the beginning, but I don't know I'm afraid of being hurt.
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Yes, I did. I wish I would have ended it 5 weeks in, although we were exclusive. I waited 6 months and it just got worse. He didn't want to end it, but I did anyways. We were completely compatible in every way. In a way he kind of awoke my senses. He had also just got out of a horrible relationship. He kept telling me to wait it out it would get better. He cares about me a lot and I care about him. But I told him I deserved more. You do too! Don't settle for mediocre when there is something amazing just around the corner. It will be worth it when you find someone who feels that way about you. Don't you want someone who is as excited to see you as you are them? Someone who makes you feel special or goes out of their way like you do them? I spent years in 2 different abusive relationships before this. My biggest life regret is not sifting through more guys to find one who actually cared about me. Don't settle for less. It will be hard for a bit and the what ifs still kill me sometimes after a month. Tell him what you want and expect, gently. If he doesn't respect your requests or try to work with you, then give it up. There is no use beating on a locked door when thousands are wide open... Since you're not exclusive anyways, talk to other guys. You may find a better match or a deeper connection.2