So My girlfriend of 9 months starting saying and complaining that I might hurt her or her family physically after I stupidly made a joke about how I am gonna come to her house and kidnap her to make her teach me play piano , I know it was a stupid joke specially in a time we were mad at each other but I only said it to cheer her up and to start a conversation to fix us , now she is afraid of me and run away when she sees me, I don't know how to calm her down or at least gain her trust back slowly , I asked her like a million time how I can prove her wrong she would answer with I don't know , every weak or two she would send me a text to remind me how much she is afraid and can't sleep because of me.
I know it was a stupid joke but I never wanted to hurt or scare her.
What should I do or say to get her back and regain her trust?
Thank you go your help :-)
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She's over reacting and obviously within the length of time she's known you , she hasn't gotten to know your personality at all. That would concern me.
You should ask her why she is judging your potential based on ONE joke.. You shouldn't have to regain her trust, you did nothing wrong. If she seriously believes you'd hurt anyone based on that joke alone, then she musn't have had the trust there to start with
If I was in your situation I'd distance myself. I'd view her as paranoid and unstable for reacting the way she has to one joke. It says more about her character than your potential. ,
I'd also start to wonder if something bad had happened to her in her past , because her reaction to your one remark is not "normal " behaviour0