Anyway, I tried to break up last week and he reacted much more dramatically than I was expecting. He was heartbroken and angry and kept saying he couldn't be without me, he would do anything to keep us together, he wants to get married and have kids and grow old together. It upset me so much that I agreed to stay and work on things. But I really don't think this is something that can be fixed.
What should I do? Even if he does change his personality for my sake, I'm still not sure that would fix things. I was very resentful after all of this because I felt like I was guilt tripped into staying. And every time I gave him an example of something I didn't like (I only said because he asked), I was met with excuses and him trying to justify his mistakes.
Most Helpful Guy
It's hard to be the one who breaks up with the other. At this point, he guilted you, and if he cares about you enough, he would've let you go. He would realize that you being happy was outside of him.
The feelings he has for you are real, and you breaking up with him, probably out of the blue, is a lot for him to process. He's not sure what he's doing, and he's becoming very needy– which from your point of view isn't very attractive.
At this point, you should do what you want. My ex came to the same ultimatum, and I'm sitting here 6 months later, content with her decision. All I want is for her to be happy because at the time I cared a lot for her. Guys go through the phase of what are they doing wrong, how can they "quick" fix. Every guy goes through it.
Don't be stuck, I'd break up with him, don't pull any clichés. If anything either give him a reason as to why, or don't at all. Don't contact him for a month at least. Don't do anything out of spite. And don't go and immediately date someone else if you care about his feelings. Work on yourself.
Best of luck :)1
Most Helpful Girl
It's clear you've already made your decision. Obviously you don't wanna be with this man anymore. You tried to break it off once but you failed, no biggie, just try again. This time I suggest you really put your foot down and stick to the plan which is to break up with him. He has no right to guilt trip you into staying.1