I can't deal with this loneliness, I'm really missing my ex lover, but we parted on bad terms, so I can't contact him. I don't know how to deal with these emotions, I'm having problems in other aspects of life too, but the loneliness is overwhelmingly making it worse.
Most Helpful Guy
Try to fall in love with something. You're incapable of falling in love with someone at the moment, but *something* is possible. It could be a hobby, some type of fun class you always wanted to take, it could be falling in love with the company of friends and making some new ones. It can be anything you want, but it can't be him. You have to fill that hole in the heart with something else.0
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Most Helpful Girl
Everyone has been there, or will be there with a bad or very much upsetting breakup that you feel it is the end of the world, and that teaches you a ton of things about yourself, and the relationship type you want. But it is not. You will miss someone so much that you think you're going to die of heartache, but you will not die. And one day the sun will shine and you know you belong with that sunshine; not the constant gloomy weather out there. I know this is cliche, but the only thing is time. Really it heals everything, every wound. Even if it does not totally heal the heartache, it will just mend enough that you will love someone again. Remember, you loved this person whom you had a bad breakup with, who didn't deserve you in some ways, it means you can love the right person more than you loved this one, your heart is big and capable of loving, so dont let yourself down.
To ease the pain, and let the time pass so quickly that you are fully healed, for example, start working out regularly and set a goal of new weight or better toned body or less fat percentage of your body, or get a hobby, maybe a musical instrument try to set a goal of being able to play your favorite song, maybe simply sudoku, or maybe just some craftsmanship course or dance course. Just to relax, or maybe even mingle with people. Try not to be alone at home looking at social media, or constantly thinking about you and him and why you broke up. Limit your time online and go out to be with people. Try to take long walks or just go shopping whenever you start thinking about what you would have done differently to be with him together, and stop writing scenarios of "what if" this or that happened. Trust me one day you will wake up and you will say oh no he or idea of him does not even hurt me any more. In short, make yourself busy and stay away from social media.
You're currently not in the mood or condition to be with another boyfriend. Do not try to have rebound relationship or sex. You need to deal with this by yourself. You should be independent. And it is not right for the other person to be used as rebound, eventually you would not want a toy for a guy who wants to forget another woman, right? Be just and fair, do not do it to another guy until you're really ready.
You may ask how I tell these things, I have been there, and cried my eyes out to sleep every night because I did not wanna look so weak to public and I know how you feel. Just hang in there. If you need more to talk, pm me1