How do we be friends?

We were best friends and then got together. Now we are over we planned to be friends again but it's been hard. He doesn't talk to me/enjoy talking to me and it's just awkward.
I'd take everything back to be his friend.
I said this to him and he said "true that"
So now what?


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What Guys Said 2

  • You guys broke up. Don't push friends. It was obviously a one sided agreement because he still probably wants to be with you.

    But if you try and push it, and then start dating someone else, don't expect him to stick around. Nor, don't ask him to be friends, because he'll know you just want him there as your back up (am I wrong?), and it gives you some security.

    So at this point, get used to no longer being friends with this person for quite sometime, if not forever. Just one of those things.

  • Nothing you can do. This is the risk you take


What Girls Said 1

  • Don't push it. You have to decide if the effort is really worth it knowing that he might still want to be with you or that there's a lot of other reasons running through his head. Being friends with your ex is an extremely complicated thing.

    It’s torture to just be friends for at least one of you. You’re hanging out “as friends.” He does something that makes you smile or vise versa. You suddenly want to kiss him — but can’t (or other way around). Why would you put yourself through that?

    False hope. Admit it, it’s there. And if it’s not there for you, it probably is for your ex.

    You can’t undo the past. If you’ve seen each other naked, you’ll have always seen each other naked. Most platonic pals of opposite genders have not seen each other naked.

    You don’t honestly want them to be with someone else. There’s a conflict of interest in your new “buddy-buddy” relationship, as you don’t want your ex to start dating again. Here’s the catch: Real friends want each other to be happy.

    You can’t talk about your personal lives without it getting awkward. Again, real friends talk about their personal lives with each other.

    Do you want to go to his wedding? No? Then you’re not going to make a very good friend, are you?

    It’s awkward for your mutual friends. They know you dated. They remember the PDA. And now they have to figure out how to treat the two of you when you show up to a party together-but-not-together.

    The mixed signals. There are too many nicknames, inside jokes and memories to start fresh, so you’re likely to fall into old dating patterns even when not romantically involved. It can be confusing for one or both of you.

    he odds of finding true love are slim if you’re still hanging out with your ex. What new guy/gal wants to hang out with your ex every weekend?

    It’s not healthy. You’ve had your heart broken. Why not invest your time and energy in the people who make you happy, not the ones who’ve hurt you deeply? (And if you broke up because of betrayal, character issues, hurtful comments or incompatible values, why are you choosing to spend time with someone you’ve already learned isn’t good for you?)


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