My boyfriend and I of nearly five years have broken up. He has said to me previously he doesn't speak to exes again but I think they all dumped him. This time round he was confused about his feelings so we kind of broke up as we didn't know what to do and he seems to have been in a depressed state pushing me away. I said some harsh things as I was heart broken at the weekend but emailed him saying I didn't mean it and I would give him space now, which I emailed on Monday.
I haven't heard from him this week and I haven't chased as trying to stick to my word to see if he misses me etc, how else will he know?
His parents and mutual friends know. I miss him so much but he needs to work out what he wants on his own as I think he is having some commitment pressure issues. I just worry he will give up now.
Most Helpful Guy
Yes in most of my break ups we stayed friends1
Most Helpful Girl
Heya, well I'm going through a similar thing right now. We argued and I told him to go to stop the constant arguing, we said we would see what happens. I messaged him and wrote a letter saying a few things and now he has not responded for a few days.
I think the best thing to do is to give him time and space. Now you feel sad and you miss why you had, just even having his presence there was a comfort you miss. It will get easier, stay busy and strong. He will eventually contact you but now he is hurting also and has gone into his man cave.
I have one fear though I am not sure you share the same? I fear he will find someone else and forget me... I try to reassure myself that I am a good girl for him and he knows it. Just the distance and ability not to talk is torturing.
Men are complex, I am sure with time he will miss what you both had. Men tend to take a little longer than us complex creatures to process things.. or they just do it in their own ways. No matter what use this as time to improve yourself and focus on you for a while. Have a cry if you need too. <32
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