Hi everyone. Me and my boyfriend were together 6 years, he's 25 I'm 24. we didn't live together. He was the love of my life we did fight but always sorted it and was okay after. He met this girl a year ago the became best friends ( she says she's a lesbian) he works with her. They go out from dinner, gym together, drinks, they actually do more things then we ever did with me. I was never aloud meet her and if I asked him he would say I'm just jealous and I'll act like a bitch to her? Which I never would do. We had plans last week to sit in and had a cosy night together but he went gym with her and then decided to go back to hers and hang out? He didn't come home till 11pm and I didn't get down till after 11 so it was latish. He always leaves me waiting. So I asked him when I seen him why did he go back to hers and he started screaming at me saying ' I'll go back to hers if I want to look at you your just being a cu*t and being so jealous of her, seriously get out of my house and go fu*king home' so I had to leave and go home. He didn't speak to me all week and on Friday I text him saying wanna talk? He said ' no' no I left him. 10 minutes ago I just get a text from him, ' you bring unneeded stress to my life, this whole week has been so peaceful without you, i do love u and care but I think it's for the best to end it' I didn't write back, I'm just so upset it's over his friend and over a text. He wasn't the nicest boyfriend he gave out to me a lot and called me names when we had fights and he always got angry when I tried to speak my mind or tell him something, he stopped taking me out, and never did anything with me. I do love him. Any advice? Why do u think he's done this? Should I write back to him? Thanks guys much appreciated x
Most Helpful Guy
He cherishes the company of his "lesbian" friend than his company with you as he has ultimately shown by breaking up with you.
Hence, he is not boyfriend-material. Henceforth, maintain military silence towards him. Block and delete his contacts, including phone numbers and social media contacts if any.
Ensure information about your wellbeing and day-to-day activities do not filter through any third party to him, and vice-versa.
Remember: silence is a potent weapon. By not responding to his text, you’re devaluing its importance and depriving him of the satisfaction he craves. This tilts the balance of power in your favour. He expects you to reply. Do not! He's probably wondering: why haven't you responded. He thinks he’s the one calling the shot.
The art of silence is a potent weapon against any adversary.
Most Helpful Girl
He is a total dickhead to trash six years over a text. He is not a MAN enough to come and talk and say I want to break up. He is a total dumbass to have his life over you. I agree he has life and friends and everything. As long as you didn't restrict him (as you said) he was just exaggerating and abusing you emotionally to make himself happy going out with others and having fun etc. And I am kind of suspicious if the girl is really lesbian. Also if a man is calling you names when getting angry, then it means he is insecure and he thinks he can pick on you whenever he wants because you won't get back at home. Calling names is a real ugly thing for both women and men. I would not bother to answer him, his texts and his calls from now on. I would move on and find a new bae. Let him drown in his own shit.2