Essentially I was the "side chick" without even knowing it. I feel so hurt and betrayed. I don't know how to even begin to deal with this. I thought he was the one, there were so many signs and the connection was crazy. I've never loved someone so much and I've never been hurt by someone so much. We didn't even end things because of this, but it all came to surface now. We haven't spoken in almost a week now. I'm not sure if he was with her while he was with me, because I know he'll never tell me the truth if I ask. I cut off all ties with him, but my heart is absolutely heartbroken. I had a really bad relationship before him and I thought things would be different, I guess since he was so different. I'm never the one for anyone and I guess thats what hurts... but any tips? I'm not good with heartbreak or keeping my emotions in check... I'm confused, hurt, I feel used...
Most Helpful Guy
Do stuff you enjoy bud doesn't involve him in any way. Don't think about him, he doesn't deserve your attention. Best way not to think about something is not to "not think about it" but to think about something else. Examples of things to do:
Good: Reading fun/cool books (Good Omens it's funny), learning a language.
Bad: Learning to throw knives using his photo on a tree, then playing flamethrower with a spray can, a match and said photo. A better alternative would be using a normal 10-1 target printout.0
Most Helpful Girl
You need to allow yourself to grieve this relationship. The wound is pretty fresh and that is why you are hurting so much.
This situation happened to me. I was dating a guy and I found out he was seeing other people (god only knows how many people he was seeing at the same time as me). Yet he told me he wanted to be with me. I only found out at the end that he was seeing other people. I thought we were exclusive as that is what we had discussed and he told me he wanted to be my boyfriend. Unfortunately, he wanted to be with everyone. He has a problem.
Focus on yourself, find a good support circle. Find people who if at 2am you are crying, you can call them and they will talk to you. It's okay to be hurt, and to feel angry, and to cry. But also try to do constructive things with your time. Spend time doing things you enjoy, with friends and people who actually do care about you. This will help you move on.
Eventually it will start to hurt less and you won't think of him as much. You will find someone new and be much happier (trust me on this one!). Eventually you will find someone who is going to respect you and not cheat. Someone who you can depend on and you will be glad that this other guy is out of your life.0
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