I think she went overboard by hitting and leaving me. She also started crying a lot.
How do I get her back and was she right to slap me?
Most Helpful Girl
I choked an ex for kissing my best friend so I think you should consider yourself lucky you only got slapped. I dumped him as well and I never took him back. He later f**ked another "friend" and knocked her up while still trying to win me back. Cheating is so disrespectful and I never forgave any guy who cheated on me.
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Most Helpful Guy
K, first of all I'd like to be the ONLY person here to actually say it was cool for you to tell her this. That takes balls to do. Instead of one of her friends telling her and going behind her back about it. So I'll give you props for that.
Now that's out of the way, like what the hell? You kissed another girl while you had a girlfriend? Dude, be committed and loyal to your girlfriend. You pretty much deserve everything she did to you. Slap and all.
However, what was the context? you didn't provide many details. Was it just a small *mwah* kind of kiss or was it just... tasting her tongue and all?
Any way it really was you have A LOT of explaining to do. Yeah, she might have acted out of instinct by slapping you and dumping you. However, it doesn't hurt to hang back maybe 3 days. Let the boiling of tempers simmer down and then leaving her a MESSAGE. Facebook, email, text, whatever. The reason why I say message is because this way you can just tell her like what it is without her interrupting you or putting her 'on the spot' and maybe act out of instinct again. Just tell her what your intentions were by kissing the other girl, it was a giant mistake, explain why you did it, and it's something you won't do again. MOST IMPORTANTLY explain to her why you told her. This is basically you're only chance of telling her that you honestly cared about her too much to go behind her back about it, your conscious was eating at you, and you wanted to be up front with her. (I'm a bit curious to know why too)
If you're lucky and she understands you (hoping 2 years of dating her didn't go down the drain) she'll give you another chance.
Best of luck to ya!