Why would he ask my opinion about redecorating then?
He values your opinion but it is possible he is thinking about you coming back too since you are seeing each other again
True but then why hasn't it happened yet
Also I went on vacation and the only thing he asked about it is when I'm coming back, is there a reason why he only asked that?
could have been concerned and just wants to know when you'll be around to still see him
Because he wants to see me right?
I would hope so, that's why I would want to know, seems to be interested in you still but I wonder if it's still a good thing to get back with an ex though
We'll we are very compatible and seem to still have feeling's for each other, no?
Well I hope it works out
Me too but I'm asking you if you think he still has feelings for me?
It seems that way but sounds like he is being cautious and keeping you at a friend level
Why do you think that?
He stays in contact with you but doesn't make you his girlfriend again but is maybe still thinking it over and taking it slow. What the break up about? I assume he broke up with you
Well I was a pushing him to get married then we started fighting because that's all I thought about
Oh ok, guys don't like being pressured into that but just may need more time , but you're at a good age for it so that's not it, he may come around he is probably still deciding
Deciding on what? I don't understand why we can't be together while he's deciding.We act like were still together every time we hang out.
Well he is still hesitant on getting married to you isn't he? I thought he was still thinking that over
I don't know I'm just focused on being together now, I just don't get why we can't date again?
I mean we act like were still together every time we hang out anyways
You really need to tell him that in a way that he will feel at at ease with like in a way you just told me so he understands you're not pressuring him into anything but want to be considered that you are at least dating
We'll I don't know how to say it that way, any suggestions? I kinda wanted him to tell me his feelings but I just don't know how to
I guess you need to get a few drinks in him and then get him to talk, that is like truth serum sometimes
I know but he doesn't seem to even talk with a few drinks in him. I don't knowI mean he talked to me about redecorating his place and getting a house, I don't know why else he would talk about all that
Yeah that's true, he wouldn't need a house for just himself
Well he could but why ask me? And take my opinions into consideration?
You're probably the only woman he has in his life right now
So you think that's the only reason why he does what he does?
Yeah I think you're the only one and he is just working on some type of plan or just living for the moment if not
Moment? So your saying he doesn't really like me?
No that's not what I meant, he may be taking things day by day and not rushing anything
We'll I'm asking how do I get him to say something?
Oh that's tricky, you could make him jealous and say a guy is interested in you so you could ask him what he calls your arrangement to know if would care or not, but I'm not sure how your arrangement is right now since your judging each other
Just seeing each other that is mean
Well when I did talk about other guys one time he acted kinda jealous like he wasn't interested in that conversation at all
Does that say something
Yeah it shows he still cares and wants you still but doesn't want to let you know that
I don't know why though
Seems like he wants to keep you around but not as close as before I guess
Why not. Doesn't he want to date me?Or he just wants to keep me around for the heck of it?
It almost seems that way
Just keep me around for the heck of it?
Well I doubt he has someone else at the moment so I would start to ask him if you're actually dating and exclusive at this point so you know where you're at with him, you basically want to know if there is a future between you two still. You really need to ask him these things
He doesn't. I didn't really want to ask him because last time I asked him to get back together he said "I don't want to get back together now" whatever that means? But I kinda wanted him to tell me.
Well if you're tired of waiting for him and can't ask him then maybe it's time to move on. That would be one way of putting to him, unless you put so much time in the relationship and still think there is hope? but it sounds like he is moving to slow for you
No It doesn't matter where we are now if it's going to go farther in the long run. What do you think?What do you think he meant when he told me "I don't want to get back together now?What's your input on this whole situation?
That it's possible later on in the future when he gets a house and you're still around that he will be with you exclusively but at the moment he wants to be free and maybe if he meets someone better he may go for them so right now he likes not being committed to anyone at the moment from what I get from all this
But he hasn't met anyone and it's been awhile. I don't eve
Even think he's trying to meet someone*
He is probably content the way things are right now, it's up to you if you want to stay in the situation or meet someone else and move on
We'll I don't I just don't want to not end up together? What do you think will happen
For now not much but if he does meet someone else and feels she is better then you I don't think he will keep seeing you
Why do you think not mu
He is comfortable the way things are right now and doesn't like change
So what will get him to progress with us?
An ultimatum , a change in his life usually those are things that will make a guy do something , like if he is going to lose something or a big change in his life to motivate him
Shouldn't you never give people an ultimatum?
You shouldn't but sometimes that's what it takes or things will never change, it just depends on you and how much longer you can wait
We'll I said I don't mind how it is now if he's going to be with me in the end
Let's hope it works out well for your sake , I admire your patients
Well we were already together for years. I love him and if he's the one how can I not be patient
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