Thank you so much for your advice this has inspired me to stay strong and not let his ways of getting to me. I am confused as its making me feel like crap and feeling like he wants me but wants me to get back so his using this girl as a way to get me fired up. But I need to see through it which is hard as I told my family how he really is so if I ever got back it won't work out for us.
It's definitely a tactic used to hurt you. But honestly flip over your perspective. Realize that he is so insecure that he needs to hurt you in an obvious way to feel powerful in the situation. Just don't give him the satisfaction. Ignore him, go out and live your life and do things that make you happy. That is the best revenge of all. Trust me :)
He was never mature but this is weird he accidently calls me we deleted our numbers so I thought and then he told me he needed to tell me his getting to know somone and stop contacts bearing in mind he contacted me
True maybe your right there
Ty for the mHo
He said he did but he likes this girl and he wants to get to know her and she's nice. But why do I Need to know as he told me stop talking to him which I did
So he's trying to hold on to you as Plan B? How does that make you feel?
Well we were together now his moving on with someone new. I was his first but when your saying it like that plan b. I feel like I am just on the side just in case. How do you know thats what his thinking? We messed up why would he want me?
He told you that he is with someone new because he wants that statement to have an impact on you. That means he still cares about what you think and how you feel.
Whsts the best adivce on how to deal with this situation now. As last time he told me that his getting married to someone but it didn't work out. I begged to be with him. He didn't coz it didn't work out. We were friends but he broke up due to not trusting me. But now his saying his with someone this is arranged propsal and he said how he likes her. But told me to not be in contact his the one whos telling me all this. And this time round I haven't been in contact with him at all. I told him his playing mind games with me. He told me he had no feelings for me then told me recently he has. He made me bad mouth him to my mum and family. I really like him but my family won't want him. What will the best thing to do with this situaion?
It didn't work when you two were together. Now he doesn't trust you. Nothing good will come of trying to get back together with him. His feelings for you are not all gone but that doesn't mean that you could get back together and make it work. Learn your lessons and move on.
Issue is he deep down wants to stay in touch. I do feel I have this urge that I do too. He didn't trust me as I contacted his family to tell them his been messing around with me and his used me for money and took advantage. He then wanted a clean slate but yet brings this situation up. He can't get over it but yet wants me around his life. That is the main issue. And I now have told my family its over. But I want him. As we both still have feelings. Its going to get worse now I cannot have him in my life permanely but glimspe at him as we can't be together due to everything. Its easy to say move on but I dont feel like I will ever be happy without what I want. But thats life.
I know that it is much easier to sit back and advise someone to move on than it is to actually do that, as I am beginning to ponder that potential in my own current relationship.The bottom line is that you two are never going to be happy together and trying to remain "friends" (staying in touch and hoping that something more develops) just prolongs the agony. Putting him in your past and moving forward is the only option that may bring you some happiness in the future.
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Thats made me feel curious and I needed to know why I am getting a random call from him then telling me to stop contacting him as his getting to know someone. I dont get why he needs to tell me.
maybe to make you jelaous
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