Any tips on how to react to this scenario? My ex and I recently broke up after being engaged and dating for 3.5 years. He ended it, I still miss him, but yeah he's not coming back. Here is my scenario: I really want to join this gym that my ex goes to. I used to have a membership there in the past. I'm not joining the gym in order to see him. I am planning on going at times when I think he is not there. I also think that I should not revolve my life around him, because he is no longer in my life. I should just do the things I want without restriction. This is the also the nicest gym in the area. I am worried about my own feelings and my future self though. I feel like it is inevitable that once he moves on I am going to feel bad about it. If I end up seeing him the gym, how do I react? My ex and I did at one time used to go to this gym together. If one day I see him working out with another girl at the gym, how can I help myself to avoid feeling bad at the situation. I still want to be able to do the things I want to do in my life, in my town, and not have restrictions. My counselor told me that maybe seeing him move on might help me move on also. I just figured that if I'm also going to be waking up this early everyday I might as well, wake up and go to the gym before work. This gym is 10 mins away from where I live. It is also 5 mins away from my work. Any thoughts?
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I think we can all agree that this gym is the best option. Short distance from home and work? Check.
As for your reaction if/when you see him there, just ignore him. I imagine he will do the same. If you keep seeing him and don't want to, try going at a different time. It can be very uncomfortable for everyone involved. I don't blame you for wanting to avoid that.1
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